1. Psychological or emotional - may be represented by an inner conflict, relationship problems, depression, anxiety or stress. More than men, women seem to connect their sexuality with their partners. Sometimes this is Conflat with love. In addition, negative experiences can certainly Hinder a woman's ability to become Arousa. These experiences range from uncomfortable to embarrassing and frightening and damaging. Many women need to feel safe before letting go into arousal. Bad experiences undercut this feeling of safety.
2. Physiologic or hormonal - the result of an abnormality in steroid levels in the body, including thyroid function or systemic diseases. Hormone imbalance can cause diminished libido in women. Specifically, women's testosterone levels gradually decrease as women mature. Although testosterone is thought of as a "male" hormone, it is important for women, too. "Testosterone is an androgen, meaning that it is produced in both women and men," says Marla Ahlgrimm, CEO and founder of Women's Health America and author of "In women, testosterone sexual spark that ignites. Low testosterone levels can mean that women experience to Lessening of their sex drive. If it is revealed that the testosterone level is below normal range for her age, a woman and her physician can discuss low doses of natural testosterone, given via cream, gel or transdermal (skin) patch. "
3. Physical or anatomical - can be due to pelvic adhesions, ovarian cysts, fiber tumors, uterine or cervical abnormalities, skin abnormalities, or infection most commonly, endometriosis. Many women do not orgasm during vaginal penetration and do not get strong enough clitoral stimulation from intercourse alone. Extra clitoral stimulation may make the difference, as can increased moisture. Once considered a problem only for menopausal women, vaginal dryness can be experienced by women of all ages - even young women. "While this condition is more prevalent among older women, it can and does occur throughout a woman's life for a variety of reasons," says Dr. Adelaide Nardone, gynecologist and medical advisor to the Vagisil Women's Health Center. "The causes include in younger women taking over-the-counter allergy medications, normal monthly hormone fluctuations, using the wrong soap and taking oral contraceptives. This condition is often not discussed, and instead, young women think there is something wrong with them or their relationship. "
Overcoming Dysfunction
There are many things a woman can do alone to overcome sexual dysfunction. According to Dr. Brody, the first step is to take a physical and emotional assessment.
"A woman should start by getting a mirror and examined her genitalia," says Dr. Brody. "She should know her own anatomy and make an honest assessment of her stress, anxiety or depression, as that can affect sexual interest. One way to overcome sexual dysfunction alone is to consider using sexual fantasy, masturbatory techniques, gels and to explore ways Vibrators to achieve orgasm. "
Just as there are things you can do alone, there are also things you can do with your partner to conquer sexual dysfunction. It can be as easy as having a night without the kids.
"If you have children, trade babysitting with some friends," says Jan Price, a relationship communication consultant from Salt Lake City, Utah. "Have a 'date night' every week, taking turns planning the date. I recommend to my couples that they pretend that they are in high school and they can not have sex ... they can only 'make out.' This brings some of the excitement back into the relationship and is non-threatening. If there is a lack of emotional intimacy, trust needs to be rebuilt. And always begin and end your day with a kiss. Kissing is more intimate than sex. Kissing is powerful .
Once the situation leads to a sexual situation, Dr. Brody states that the key may be experimentation. "Couples should experiment with different sexual positions," says Dr. Brody. "Depending on the orientation of the uterus, intercourse could be painful, so as you need to change. Foreplay is the key."
Since the entire country is focused on sex lately, I thought that I received this letter might be of interest to people.
Hi Michele:
I'd like to ask your advice about sex. My husband and I have very different sex drives. For him, everyday would be great, and twice a day would be great. For me, once a week, but to accommodate him, I'd have sex twice a week. I do not think I'm abnormal, but he asks, "What's wrong with you?" I say it's normal for a couple to have sex twice a week or eleven. He says he does not care about 'normal', it's not enough for him. He has a point, but everyday and even every other day is too much for me. We've been married almost 20 years and have both built up a lot of Resentment towards each other. He, because of the sex, and me, for a whole lot of other marital problems. I never did have a high sex drive, even before we were married. Neither of us know how to solve this problem, but it's a big one.
I am very glad that you are asking for feedback about your sexual relationship with your husband because the patterns in your marriage are so common that others reading your letter and my response might benefit greatly.
First of all, know that testosterone, one of the hormones responsible for sex drive, is 20-40% more prevalent in men than women. Though it is not always the case, it is very common for men to desire sex more often than their wives. This gender difference often creates problems in marriages, particularly when people blame each other for being different. Men think their wives are passionless and women think their husbands are sex Maniacs. Blame is the thing that destroys marriages, not differences in libido.
When men and women have substantially different sex drives, something interesting happens. Most women need to feel close to their partners emotionally to desire sex. Women need to spend time with their partners, to communicate on a deep level and feel like they're team mates in regards to housework and kids and so on. All this has to be in place for most women to really desire their men.
Men, on the other hand, generally need to feel close to their partners physically before they invest a great deal of energy into their relationships. So she's waiting for him to be more emotionally intimate and he's waiting for her to be more tuned into him physically and the Resentment that results in this waiting game is so huge, it's beyond belief.
That being said, it's really important for both of you to become more understanding of each other. This means you both need to try to imagine what it would be like to live in each others shoes for a while. He probably walks around feeling that if you loved him more, you would be more sensitive to his needs. Undoubtedly he feels hurt and rejected and might even question his sex appeal.
You probably feel that if I loved more, I would be satisfied having sex eleven or twice a week. He would also be more responsive to the other issues concerning you in your marriage that you alluded to in your message. You also probably walk around feeling bad that he never seems satisfied, that no matter what you do, he's always unhappy. This is not a pleasant feeling when you love your partner.
Look, Kathy, one of you needs to be the big one here to break out of the vicious circle. Since you wrote to me, I'm counting on you. It could just as easily be your husband, but since I do not have his ear (eye), I'm going to direct my advice to you.
First of all, know that you're right about the average amount of most American couples have sex per week .. KNow also that that statistic is not worth a dime because your husband is not fazed by it. So he'll go on being resentful, angry and distant. The Upshot is that you need to make him feel better about your sexual relationship. When you do, I promise you, he'll be more repsonsive to you. Thousands of women have told me this has been true in their lives.
There are lots of ways to accomplish this. Some may be more appealing to you than others, but do not rule anything out just yet.
1. Flirt with him.
Do you remember the early part of your relationhip? Even though you were never highly sexed, did not you flirt more in the beginning, pat him on the butt, tell him he looks great, and so on. This makes a difference.
2. Put other things aside and make time.
Sometimes, women place too much priority on everything else they have to do and make their last sexual relationships on their lists. Consider if this is true for you. If so, other things can wait. Your marriage can be better than ever if you reprioritze your time.
3. Even if you're not in the mood, do it anyway ... sometimes.
So many women have told me that they can jumpstart their sex drive by just getting started. Once they're into it ... they're into it.
4. Consider just pleasing him
If you're really not in the mood for sex, your husband may be satisfied if you do something nice for him once in a while.
5. Discover new ways to rev up your interest.
Let's face it, girl, after so many years of marriage, you might need something new to renew your interest. Cast your inhibitions to the wind and experiment with anything that might intrigue you.
Okay, I can almost hear you saying, "Why do I have to do all the work?" Kathy, just remember that the way to a man's heart is not through his stomach. The more you are responsive to his needs, the more he'll be responsive to you.
I want you to know that I really understand how difficult this has been for you during your 20 years of marriage and I'm proud of you for hanging in there. It says a lot about your (and your husband's) strength and character.
Try being a little more Receptive to your man and let me know what happens.
Take care,
Now who would have thought that something as simple as food could increase or decrease the benefits of sex? Low and behold we have found the foods that will improve your sex drive or at least turn on your partner.
For him: What foods get the male blood flow going?
1. Soluble Fiber and Antioxidants: These edibles are the two most reliable sources of Enhancers circulation and can help bring on erections easily.
Soluble fiber helps cholesterol flow through the digestive system before it is broken down and absorbed into your arteries' walls. This keeps the circulation of blood flowing allowing it to reach those parts down below much quicker and easier.
Antioxidants on the other hand are known to attack free radicals in the body, nitric oxide levels before decrease. Nitric oxide helps to deliver oxygen to the blood therefore the higher the level of nitric oxide the better the overall blood flow. Some great antioxidants are to try out any type of berries including: blueberries, raspberries and cranberries, as well as broccoli, tomatoes, and sweet potatoes.
2. Scents of Cinnamon Buns, Pumpkin Pie, Donuts, and Black Licorice: Scents for men have the ability to rev their engines. Researchers believe that Scents evoke a nostalgic memory to keep relaxed and men become more aware of sexual issues. After a neurological study done with 25 medical students monitoring penile blood flow, researchers found using a wide range of Scents cinnamon buns that ranked number one for activating the senses in a sexual male. Pumpkin foot Donuts, and Black Licorice also ranked fairly high on the list to name a few.
For her: What foods get the female hormones going?
1. The 3 C's - Caffeine, Calcium, and Chocolate:
Caffeine: Even a small caffeine buzz can help increase blood flow to the genitals, making nerve endings stimulate and easy to access.
Calcium: is also known to increase blood flow in the body especially for women.
Chocolate: This sweet has a ton of chemicals that can help lighten your mood - including anadamine, and phenylethylamine, which help produce an amazing feeling Euphoric.
2. Cranberry Juice: This life saver can really help keep your sex life safe. Twenty percent of women suffer from urinary tract infections in the world today. Urinary tract infections are caused by bacteria from sex being pushed up into the bladder, kidney and can cause further infections. You can rid yourself of this risk though, by drinking half a cup of (unsweetened) cranberry juice each day. Researchers have proven that cranberry juice can help prevent the risk of urinary tract infections by thirty four percent.
What foods get going both men and women.
1. Egg McMuffin: A bacon and egg McMuffin may seem like a very unhealthy meal choice, but this food for sex combination is very beneficial. It contains zinc, which helps keep the woman Lubricated and the ingredient that the man needs to produce sperm. It also contains a B vitamin that helps trigger explosive sneezes and Orgasms.
2. Ants on a Log (Celery, Peanut Butter, and Raisins): This is a great snack for both sexes.
Celery is packed with Androstenone and androstenol, two pheromones that can help women attract men like the plague. Every time you crunch on celery these odor molecules are released that help to boost arousal.
Peanut butter, nuts with containing mono-unsaturated fats, are a well known source of arginine - an amino acid that helps blood flow occurs. Men that eat healthy fat found in nuts are also known to have high amounts of testosterone.
Raisins are packed with lignans, which are phytoestrogens that balance women's hormone levels. They are also a source of antioxidant which helps increase blood flow down below.
Since the dawn of time, people have looked toward Elixirs and potions to improve their sex lives. Why else, after all, would one consume ground tiger penis, horny goat weed and Spanish Fly?
Have a really wonderful role-play with your partner, have a really great dinner out or watch a romantic movie together, "says Robert Dunlap, who has researched aphrodisiacs at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco." The greatest aphrodisiac is your mind.
Perhaps because nearly one in five men in the U.S. suffer from erectile dysfunction, according to a recent study in the American Journal of Medicine. Some researchers have estimated that as many as 40% of U.S. women have low libido or inability to reach orgasm. Most quick fixes simply do not work, and some, like Spanish Fly, a supposed aphrodisiac derived from beetles that can cause kidney damage, are harmful.
But that's not stopping the $ 600 billion global pharmaceutical industry from trying to think up new sex drugs. Viagra, the little blue pill Pfizer launched a decade ago, brings in $ 1.7 billion in sales every year. Cialis, the longer-acting imitator made by Eli Lilly, rake in another $ 1 billion, with several hundred million more for Levitra, from Bayer and Schering-Plow. Other remedies increase blood flow, like the penis injection Caverject, and bring in $ 30 million more.
A product that could improve women's sexual function might bring in even more money, if it were truly effective. So far, though, companies have been unsuccessful. Viagra failed in tests on women. Procter & Gamble tried to push a testosterone patch for female sexual dysfunction through the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) in 2004 but the agency Balke, Citing a lack of long-term safety data.
Now the idea of using testosterone as a sex-booster for women is being pushed by Lincolnshire, Ill.-based BioSante Pharmaceuticals, Inc. Its LibiGel is rubbed on the upper arm daily, delivering testosterone, which is thought to increase libido, to the bloodstream over time. The company just began late-stage trials, and, after discussions with the FDA, will start a big safety trial before submitting data to regulators in 2009.
Palatin Technologies, of Cranbury, NJ, is trying to get in on The Game, developing a nose spray, called bremelanotide, to treat men and women with sexual dysfunction. Applied 10 to 15 minutes prior to sex, it travels through the central nervous system to increase blood flow in the penile or vaginal tissue. The company hopes to get FDA approval in 2009 for men and women around 2011. "On the female front, we've got a chance to be first to market," says CEO Carl Span. "People wonder how many women will come in for treatment, but my gut tells me they will come in."
What Really Works
Right now, the treatment available for women with female sexual dysfunction that has been reviewed by the FDA is a handheld vacuum that can be used with a doctor's prescription to increase blood flow to the clitoris. Called Eros Therapy, it is made by NuGyn of Minnesota. Devices such as this go through fewer hurdles than drugs; the Eros device has been tested in several dozen people, compared with hundreds for a pill such as Viagra.
Joy Davidson, a Manhattan-based certified sex therapist, worries that all this technology may cause some people to ignore important cultural factors that can cause sexual dysfunction. "There are agendas here that are not health-based, they're profit-based," she says. "If you're not looking at these elements - the emotional, psychological and cultural - then giving somebody a so-called magic pill is not going to solve the problem."
Future Fixes
Meanwhile, drug researchers keep coming up with even more out-there approaches. For instance, a gene therapy, which seeks to fix erectile function by altering the DNA of cells in the penis, then injecting them back in to the patient. It should work for six months, according to inventor Arnold Melman, the researcher at New York's Albert Einstein College of Medicine. He has co-founded a tiny biotech, Ion Channel Innovations, to develop the product, which even he does not expect to reach the market before 2012. No gene therapy has ever been approved.
But that's not stopping the $ 600 billion global pharmaceutical industry from trying to think up new sex drugs. Viagra, the little blue pill Pfizer launched a decade ago, brings in $ 1.7 billion in sales every year. Cialis, the longer-acting imitator made by Eli Lilly, rake in another $ 1 billion, with several hundred million more for Levitra, from Bayer and Schering-Plow. Other remedies increase blood flow, like the penis injection Caverject, and bring in $ 30 million more.
A product that could improve women's sexual function might bring in even more money, if it were truly effective. So far, though, companies have been unsuccessful. Viagra failed in tests on women. Procter & Gamble tried to push a testosterone patch for female sexual dysfunction through the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) in 2004 but the agency Balke, Citing a lack of long-term safety data.
Now the idea of using testosterone as a sex-booster for women is being pushed by Lincolnshire, Ill.-based BioSante Pharmaceuticals, Inc. Its LibiGel is rubbed on the upper arm daily, delivering testosterone, which is thought to increase libido, to the bloodstream over time. The company just began late-stage trials, and, after discussions with the FDA, will start a big safety trial before submitting data to regulators in 2009.
Palatin Technologies, of Cranbury, NJ, is trying to get in on The Game, developing a nose spray, called bremelanotide, to treat men and women with sexual dysfunction. Applied 10 to 15 minutes prior to sex, it travels through the central nervous system to increase blood flow in the penile or vaginal tissue. The company hopes to get FDA approval in 2009 for men and women around 2011. "On the female front, we've got a chance to be first to market," says CEO Carl Span. "People wonder how many women will come in for treatment, but my gut tells me they will come in."
What Really Works
Right now, the treatment available for women with female sexual dysfunction that has been reviewed by the FDA is a handheld vacuum that can be used with a doctor's prescription to increase blood flow to the clitoris. Called Eros Therapy, it is made by NuGyn of Minnesota. Devices such as this go through fewer hurdles than drugs; the Eros device has been tested in several dozen people, compared with hundreds for a pill such as Viagra.
Joy Davidson, a Manhattan-based certified sex therapist, worries that all this technology may cause some people to ignore important cultural factors that can cause sexual dysfunction. "There are agendas here that are not health-based, they're profit-based," she says. "If you're not looking at these elements - the emotional, psychological and cultural - then giving somebody a so-called magic pill is not going to solve the problem."
Future Fixes
Meanwhile, drug researchers keep coming up with even more out-there approaches. For instance, a gene therapy, which seeks to fix erectile function by altering the DNA of cells in the penis, then injecting them back in to the patient. It should work for six months, according to inventor Arnold Melman, the researcher at New York's Albert Einstein College of Medicine. He has co-founded a tiny biotech, Ion Channel Innovations, to develop the product, which even he does not expect to reach the market before 2012. No gene therapy has ever been approved.
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